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As an old friend said to me recently “I have the feeling that the great cosmic broom is really up our bums” –

While you might not put it quite like that ….. I definitely agree – There is quite a sense of urgency in me to get my act really cleaned up – to have this mind as the tool of awareness instead of the unconscious director of a dreary show!!

HA! – I like that – it just popped out!!!

Anyway ….. to that end, I have scheduled two new programs for early 2014.

The first is a New Women’s Group

I have been asked to lead a women’s group by several women over the past year or so, and it hasn’t felt like the right time…. Now it does.

The group will start on Wednesday 19th Feb at 7 pm and will go until Easter.  It will be a closed group of no more than 8 women.  After Easter the group will open for new members if there is space. I expect the group to be on-going.

We will be holding a sacred space and allowing whatever needs to emerge to do so. There will be no agenda or structure other than our willingness to be truthful, to enquire deeply and to support each other. I may introduce some practices or exercises as they seem appropriate.

We will be letting our hearts open and be willing create a sacred space of love in which we can all bask, grow, relax and rest.

FREE INTRO EVENING:  Wednesday 12th February 7 pm – Bookings Essential

Group starts:  Wed 19th Feb

Fees: $230 for the term or early bird $195 if paid by 12th Feb

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 The second program is a popular one which ran twice last year –“Working Miracles” is a simple, practical, how-to, step by step method of shifting your perception.  It is based on  “A Course in Miracles”.

For 6 weeks, you will be guided through simple daily practices, meditations and enquiries, making daily changes in your thinking and actions and transforming fear into abundant love.

When we clear what is blocking us, we release our fear and allow gratitude, forgiveness and love to lead the way ….  making space for everyday miracles to enter all aspects of our daily lives .. Anything is indeed possible with a few simple shifts that almost all of us can make.

We will be targeting: inner and outer abundance, healing our finances, our relationships with ourselves and others, our bodies, self image and self worth – and eventually – miracle mindedness.

While our egos might not like this shift one bit, if we just do the work as it is given, miraculous changes begin to happen.

It is fun and achievable.

Past participants say: I have been surprised by this group – the daily practices on letting go of fear really build on themselves and life really starts synchronising with abundance.  I have experienced some real miracles like getting a new job and I believe this is because I am witnessing my ego and turning to love many times a day.  I feel loved up and excited!  Grace is an insightful and compassionate facilitator who also manages to bring delightful humour into the group process .  Thank you Grace!

FREE INTRO EVE: Thursday 13th Feb 7 pm

GROUP STARTS: Thurs 27th Feb  7pm for 6 weeks (you will start the first week’s work the previous week and we will process it on the first night)

Fees: $230 for the term or early bird $195 if paid by 13th Feb

We will use the best selling book “May Cause Miracles” by Gabby Bernstein as the text and a copy of the book is included in your fees.

Well, – I am excited about the possibilities both these groups provide – so if one or both of them call to you – hop in now and book your place ….. use the contacts page to let me know.

I hope to see you here …. meanwhile, remember to be the love that you are …..

Many blessings – Grace

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I recently had a Miracle with a capital M.   A few months ago I bought a book by Gabby Bernstein and started working through it – I went straight to the section focussing on healing our finances – since I had been asking for a miracle in this department!

I was willing, ready and able to go really deeply into what might subconsciously be blocking me from being financially free – and in particular, from living free of the pressures of a large mortgage (a pattern which had run through my whole life – however hard I tried).  Almost immediately I recognised a belief that I had never seen before …. despite many years of inner work.  There was that hit of truth when I uncovered it – that AhHa that is unmistakable when you hit the truth!  After a week of inner work guided by the text …. and a growing trust in miracles, …I got a call from the bank about my mortgage.

Now what you need to understand… is that a couple of years ago, the bank gave me a few months interest free to help me along.  Only they forgot to re-instate the interest.  Of course I knew I would have to pay the back interest but at least in the meantime I had a roof over my head. 

After the inner work, I had decided to come clean and ring the bank and tell them of their mistake.  On the day I was going to ring, the bank rang me!!  They were deeply apologetic (!) informing me that they had made a mistake, that they had re-instated my interest and telling me the monthly interest charge.  They were very sorry and hoped I was OK with that.  I explained that I understood and had in fact been intending to ring them that very day to confess.

With a gulp, I asked how much the back interest was going to be (I estimated it as somewhere around $25.000).  Oh no – said the miracle worker from the bank …. it was our mistake so we are waiving the back interest! – (this is the BANK we are talking about! – $25.000.00!)

A couple of days later, I got an offer of fabulously paid work which would also put a hole in that mortgage…. (are you getting the idea?)

Well, I was so excited that I started telling people, who then asked that I create a group and support them to work through the book …. and that group finishes this week.

Here’s what a couple of them have said along the way:
“I have been surprised by this group – the daily practices focusing on letting go of fear really build on themselves and life really starts synchronising with abundance.  I have experienced some real miracles like getting a new job and I believe this is because I am witnessing my ego and turning to love many times a day.  I feel loved up and excited!  Grace is an insightful and compassionate facilitator and also manages to bring delightful humour into the group process .  thank you and see you Wednesday Lovely Grace! and yes I have had another major miracle this week!” CH

“I feel I have softened and my heart has opened in ways I didn’t realise I could, if that makes sense. The focus of the book and the support of being in the group has suffused my life with a warmth and inner glow. I am loving it and will keep going beyond the 42 days. I highly recommend this for everyone.” CS

So – as this group finishes, I have been asked to lead another – We start on Wed Oct 2nd, when another 7 week journey begins.  Here are the details.

Working Miracles                 

A 42 day journey to a whole new way of life!

 By using Gabby Bernstein’s book as the text and working through simple daily enquiries and meditations, we make profound changes in our thinking and actions to transform fear into abundant love …

You’ll be surprised at how simple changes can lead to the miraculous in all aspects of our daily lives –  leading to inner and outer abundance, healing our finances, our relationships with ourselves and others, our bodies, self image and self worth – and eventually to miracle mindedness.

The course is fun and achievable. We use Gabby Bernstein’s book as the text.  In it she offers the compelling message that anything is indeed possible with a few simple shifts that almost all of us can make.

  • 7 wk program Weds 7-9 pm start 2nd  Oct
  • Fees $230: E.Bird $195 by 20th Sep -a copy of Gabby’s book is included in your fee.

The group will be a max of 8 and has 3 people already signed up, so if this calls to you, jump in by using the “contacts” page on this website  http://www.thealchemyoftheheart.com or email me at grace@thealchemyoftheheart.com and I will send you a registration form. You can register with a $50 deposit.

Blessings and Miracles to you all – I hope to journey with you

with love

Grace

 

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This is an invitation to join us for my new course starting 24th July (next week!) – and a reminder that the early bird price ends today!

Awakening to Abundance – is a 42 day journey from fear to love!   As we explore daily texts, exercises and self enquiry, we make subtle daily shifts which add up to a new perspective on life.

You’ll be surprised at how these simple changes can lead to the miraculous in all aspects of our daily lives –  leading to inner and outer abundance, healing our finances, our relationships with ourselves and others, our bodies, weight, self image and self worth – and eventually to miracle mindedness.

The course is fun and achievable. We use Gabby Bernstein’s book as the text.  In it she offers the compelling message that anything is indeed possible with a few simple shifts that almost all of us can make.  (your book is included in the fee).

  • 7 week course:  Wednesday evenings from July 24th 7-9 pm
  • Ocean Shores South
  • Group is limited to 8 people
  • Cost is $210 (early bird payable by Monday 15th July) – then $250
  • Previous participants of any of my courses $195 by 15th July
  • (your copy of the book is included in your fees)

More details:  http://www.thealchemyoftheheart.com.au

Bookings and enquiries:  grace@thealchemyoftheheart.com.au

 

 

 

 

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As those of you who know me personally will agree ….. money has been my biggy!  paying the mortgage, having enough to get by and sometimes not …… still not willing to give up doing the work I love.

Meantime I have seen clients I have worked with have miraculous windfalls and wonderful opportunities after the hypnotherapy sessions on Financial WellBeing …. and yet I could only get so far by myself …..

Recently I said Enough! I don’t think this is how I am meant to live …… all well and good to be peaceful with whatever is and to not to focus on money, but the bank doesn’t agree.  What if all this is just so I finally say Enough! and make some changes deep down ….. what if I am meant to live abundantly …… what if focussing on money is not only not unspiritual, but is actually my life’s learning ……. what if abundance is my natural state and I am out of step?

So – I asked for help.

Firstly, almost immediately some tools turned up for me – wonderful, affirming and supportive tools……. I got to work!

The next sign of help came a few days later in a form I did not expect!  Driving an interstate friend into Byron for a yummy breakfast, we were sitting in stationary traffic banked up to the roundabout, when an SUV complete with bullbar, slammed into the back of us, lifted us into the air, and slammed us into the car in front  My friend and I and the dog all walked free, if shaken, but the car was a mess.

I had been pondering how to get back to the UK to visit my old Dad – 92 and shakey.  I had also been pondering about my dear old Golf, running perfectly, but to my shock, now 11 years old.

Well – the car was insured for much more that she was worth, so enough for a good car and a trip.  Next, there were no economy seats available into Heathrow – so I had to fly into Paris – a lifelong dream – a friend flew to join me for a wonderful few days.  Then the Eurostar to UK, a gentle, loving time with my old Dad, and meantime, word had got out that I was coming and I had clients already lined up for me to give sessions…… so more money coming in.  I was feeling abundant and cared for.

When I got back, another friend phoned and asked to come up for a visit.  Goody!  I was enjoying myself!  She brought with her a book – “I just stuck it in at the last minute”  she said -” you might like to have a look”.

The book was called “Creating Money, Attracting Abundance” – a channelled book – a step by step guide to dis-creating the limitations we have been living and let money flow readily into our lives…..  I began to read and to do the exercises.  Many I was familiar with – techniques, tools and hypnotherapy I had used, and yet something about the energy this book carried …….. I found memories and beliefs popping up that I had not seen as deeply before and I knew I was on the right track. I am finding the work profound and powerful.
Of course, being who I am, I have to share this …. so I am starting a 10 week study group on 3rd October to work through the book and the tools and exercises together, with some hypnotherapy, meditations and other tools I have been given.  I am sooooo excited!

There is a free intro session: Sat 29th  Sept at 2.30 pm

More info on the schedules page

If this resonates with you, I hope you will join us – contact me through the contacts page of this website http://www.thealchemyoftheheart.com.

If not – good on you! I hope your life is already flowing with riches of all kinds.

Much love, grace

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Recently, I’ve noticed that I’ve been bumping into people with injuries– in the supermarket, on the street, and of course as clients … and as I listen to their frustration and drive to get back to “normal” I find myself sharing with them the story of the leg. ……. The lesson of the leg changed my life and ultimately was instrumental in leading me to the work I do today.  However, this is in hindsight!  At the time, the lesson of the leg was Painful.

It started out with a skiing trip with my two close friends on that tricky mountain in Tasmania, Ben Lomond.  We had taken 4 days off and had access to a lovely ski lodge on the mountain – had piled the car with goodies to eat and drink and were in high spirits.  We arrived in mid afternoon and headed out onto the snow fields.  After a couple of runs, we decided to head back to the lodge, knowing that accidents happen when you are tired.  As we skied off, on the flat near the lifts, I hit a patch of ice awkwardly and fell.  My bindings didn’t release.  There was sickening snap and my leg was at a very funny angle to my boot!  We started the long journey back, with me being skied down the mountain on a stretcher (this seemed marvellous at the time) and off to hospital where a break in the bone just above my ski boot was confirmed.

I was given a plaster cast, a pair of wooden crutches, told to expect it would take 8 weeks to heal and sent off home.  Then reality began to set in.  My long term, live in relationship had recently come to an end and the day before the accident, my partner had moved out.  So I was alone.  I lived in a house with lots of stairs, on a very steep block, so I couldn’t get around the house, let alone go outside and since it was my right leg that was in plaster, I couldn’t drive.

I decided there and then that 8 weeks was far too long!  After all, I was a bit of a healer, most of my friends were healers of one sort or another – anyway, I had my own consultancy, corporate and business clients waiting, a mortgage to pay.  No, I told myself and my leg, four weeks was going to be plenty of time to be up and running!

A couple of days later I hopped (literally) onto a plane to fly interstate and co-facilitate a three day  adventure based training program for senior executives.  You know, the sort of thing that was popular in the early 80’s – abseiling, team work, that sort of very strenuous thing.  Well, I thought, I might have a broken leg, but that was all. I could still lead a group and hold it all together couldn’t I?

By the time the plane landed, I was vomiting with the pain and exertion and just wanted to lie down and never move again.

Home I went and the reality began to dawn on me that I really couldn’t get out of the house. I couldn’t even make a cup of tea and carry to to a chair.  I was totally dependent on the kindness of friends to help me. I had to learn to ask for help.  To accept what kindness was offered.

8 weeks passed and the break hadn’t even begun to heal.

16 weeks now and I was still in plaster and the bone cells at the site of the break were declared dead.  No healing was possible and a bone graft was recommended.  I did some research and didn’t like the success rate.  I heard about a machine that was rumoured to help heal broken bones. The idea was that a little pad attached to electrodes was attached to either side of the break, creating some sort of circuit and jumping an electrical pulse across the bone to activate the cells……  Just what I needed – but although I tried for weeks, to track it down, I was unable to find anyone who knew of the whereabouts (or the name) of the machine. Finally I gave up looking but still I held strong and positive and told myself I believed that everything would be OK.

By this time, I was broke, couldn’t pay the mortgage and was getting increasingly scared and lonely, although I wasn’t prepared to admit that to myself.

One day, several weeks later, I slipped and fell and landed heavily on the floor in my office.  I finally gave in to what I was feeling and I lay there on the floor and sobbed and sobbed until I had nothing left to sob with. All my fear, financial anxiety, fear for the future, my work, my life, frustration at my limitations, loneliness, pain and downright self-pity came up to be sobbed out.  Finally I was done sobbing, and as I lay there exhausted on the floor, I noticed I was right by the bookshelf.  I pulled out a book – it was by Deepak Chopra, asked for help and opened a page.  There was only one short statement on the page I opened.  It said “Nothing heals until it is first accepted”.

“Oh yes”, I thought – “I know that.  Give me something else” – and I started to look for another page!

Mercifully, at this point, something got through!!  STOP!!!  JUST STOP!!!!!

“Nothing heals until it is first accepted” “Hmm”, I thought, “have I actually ACCEPTED this?”

Well, you can guess the answer.  So I finally set about really acknowledging this broken leg.  I put my attention into it.  I talked to it, asked it how it felt, I sent it love and compassion.  I realised that I had been angry and afraid, and had therefore pulled away all my attention and my energy from the leg.  No wonder it couldn’t heal.  Now I greeted it like an injured friend.  I told it how sorry I was.  I was kind to it.  I felt right into it with all my attention until I had really met it.

And I was humble.  Finally, I was humble.

A few days later I got a phone call. “Hello” said the breezy voice on the end of the phone “are you the person who has been looking for that machine? – I have one I bought for clients, but I’m not using it, would you like to borrow it for as long as it takes?”

I don’t know to this day the name of the machine, or how it really worked, but something was working. Three weeks later, X rays confirmed that the bone was knitting.  I was on the road to recovery.

Two months later, I gave up my consultancy, the corporate world and Australia for the time being, and went to live in India to be with a great spiritual master, Papa-Ji.

Today I work very differently.  My understanding of acceptance has deepened.  The kind of acceptance I’m talking about has nothing to do with resignation – even subtle resignation is quite a different thing.  Acceptance is really not even quite the right word for it – it conjures up the possibility of being a doormat, or of allowing what feels wrong, of having to be Ok with what doesn’t feel OK.  It has nothing to do with this either. And it certainly has nothing to do with any form of resistance, or any story we might tell ourselves about what is going on.

So what is it?  Well, it is more about being willing to meet, deeply, that place inside which we are afraid to meet, to touch the feelings which we keep our energy away from, of being willing to move deeply into this, claiming it as part of our self, accepting and inviting and embracing it.  This is a felt bodily experience, perhaps a cellular memory, certainly a felt sense which, when it is finally met, fully and completely, can reveal itself at last for what it really is.

This kind of acceptance is actually about being powerfully, completely present with what is without trying to change it, get rid of it or move away from it.  It is about accepting even the feeling that we are unable to accept, and in doing so, we feel relief from the inner conflict and miraculously, we move into acceptance, peace and spaciousness.  In this there is a deep surrender.

You may be thinking as you read this –“yes, yes, Ok but HOW do I do this???”  The funny thing is, that there is no way you can do this.  It is more about you having already said “Yes” to this experience – this present moment at some level, or it wouldn’t be showing up. It is really just about noticing what’s here.

I often see in my clients a resistance to meet what is imagined to be too painful, or too scary, or too dark.   We feel afraid to touch into this sense of unease, and so we create a mask for the world as we either try to pretend that it’s all OK, or we just collapse into a small, dark, contracted place.  Rarely, if ever do we really meet whatever painful emotion is there, not trying to change it, get rid of it, or make it better – but just really meet it. This doesn’t mean catharsis, or a re-living of any painful memories, on the contrary, I believe this is the way we can re-traumatise ourselves.  This is a gentle effortless noticing of what is already here.

The key here is a tender, compassionate approach.  I have found that when our internal experience is noticed and met, greeted tenderly, gently and with compassion- in the way you might hold a small hurt child, then something miraculous begins to happen.  The pain or emotion begins to move, to take up space, instead of being resisted, contracted, confined and ignored. It may have a voice and often will speak as the child, asking for what it needs, – which is usually a mature, loving parent who can reassure him or her, offering encouragement and containment. Then a new perspective can be given on an old, mistaken idea that has been innocently believed – such as “I am unlovable, I am unwanted, I don’t belong”   – a new perspective that trusts in the process of life. In this way, we re-parent a part of ourselves, giving ourselves what our own parents were unable to give. The thing is, that as we stop being in conflict with ourselves, we come right into the present moment.  And then this pain begins to move, to expand, to change.

This change is not just a shifting around, although that can be part of the process, it is a transmutation.  This is not the same as transcendence.  When something is transcended, it is moved through, risen above, gone beyond.  In the process of transmutation, the energy that has been suppressed literally transforms into its deeper aspect and becomes something higher – clarity, love, affection, compassion and spaciousness, allowing us to be more of who we really are – more present, more alive, more powerful, more real, more whole.

One of my dearest early spiritual teachers, Bartholomew, once said “You come here because you want to feel, and then you spend all your time and energy trying to avoid it”.

I laughed, because I didn’t know then, the depth of that statement.

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